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Do you ever feel like you have to do it all and you have to do it right NOW? How does that make you feel? How do you think that impacts your ability to accomplish your goals? Do you ever fall in the trap of wanting instant gratification when it comes to the area you are focusing on? What are some ways you could deal with those feelings and remind yourself that progress is in the BABY steps? πŸ™‚ Do you expect yourself to devote large amounts of time or effort to your goals every single day? How Β do you think that could be holding you back? What would happen if you lessened the amount of time and effort you required of yourself so it felt more manageable? Do you get caught up in black and white thinking (having to do it all or nothing at all)? What would happen if you made an effort to create some grey in your life and found some moderation of the two? What would happened if you used overwhelm as a sign that you needed to scale back your plan? How much more do you think you would get accomplished?

I’m a classic example of a slip and fail dieter. I’m the kind of person who eats a little too much at dinner, or gives into temptation, and spirals completely out of control. I’ve never been able to just “get back on track.” After all, if I’ve eaten more calories than I have for the day by lunch, then what do I do for dinner? I know that skipping meals is never a good idea.

I’m hoping to remedy this with my weekly cheat/treat day, but that’s still not going to solve everything. For all I know, this approach may only be a temporary fix. I know I might not be able to be so lenient with my calorie counts as the weight continues to drop.

I think that’s what frightens me the most. Right now, I do have a fairly lenient way of doing things. My current goal is to eat around 1,240 calories per day (40 calories per point X 31 points per day). I am not counting calories in fruit and veggies, however. Once a week, I give myself a break from calorie counting- which in theory should make up for the fact that my net calories without produce are under 1,000 calories per day- and some plans say I should be eating a LOT more (like around 2,000 calories a day).

The unknown scares me. I like having the flexibility to eat fruit and veggies without counting calories. I like having one day per week where I can eat whatever I want, and knowing that what works for me now may not work for me in 6 month scares me.

I second guess my plan every day. I worry that I’m not eating enough with this method. I’ve heard that the TDEE method is better because it allows you to lose weight without losing too much muscle mass. Right now, my net calories have only hit 1,200 twice- once after a cheat meal. Most of my research shows that I probably should be eating a net of closer to 1,500-1,700 calories per day. So, do I eat at my “sedentary TDEE” 6 days a week and have a free day once a week (I earn anywhere from 300-600 exercise calories without doing any activity other than walking)- and I plan on increasing my activity. So, that will give me an extra 1,800-3,600 calories on my free day. But, of course, I don’t know if banking calories during the week and then eating them all in one day actually works in the long term.

I definitely don’t find my current plan overwhelming in the moment, but the fears and doubts regarding my future on this plan are overwhelming. I almost wonder if setting up a back-up plan for if this plan fails is, really, just setting me up for failure in the end.

Why are there so many approaches to this weight loss thing?